You’ve been asked to be an usher. Now what? Obviously, your main responsibility will be seating guests as they arrive for the ceremony. However, there are a few other tasks you might be expected to help out with. Here’s a short checklist of important details and responsibilities you’ll need to remember for the rehearsal and on the big day.
• Before the rehearsal starts, make sure you’ve picked up your suit or tux and have it ready to go for the following day.
• Attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner to receive your instructions and any special seating requests.
• Find out when/where wedding day photos you’ll need to be part of will be taken.
• Meet your fellow wedding party members if you haven’t already done so.
THE WEDDING DAY
• Arrive at least 45 minutes before the ceremony starts.
• Check for any last-minute special seating requests from both families.
• When guests begin to arrive, seat them on the appropriate side of the church (if this is the couple’s plan)
• When seating women, give them your arm. Their husband/date is expected to follow behind.
• Be respectful and courteous to all guests. Even though you only have a few moments to walk them to their seat – try and throw on a little charm. They’ll love it!
• Be aware of any elderly guests that may need extra help going to and from their seats.
• If a runner (aisle carpet) is being used, two ushers are often expected to unroll it immediately before the bride walks down the aisle.
• Traditionally, ushers close the doors after the wedding party enters and re-open them for the bride and her father to enter the church.
• During the ceremony, ushers typically sit toward the back of the church. Sometimes, they’re even asked to sit outside to let late-arriving guests in without causing a disturbance.
• After the bride, groom and wedding party exit the church, the ushers begin releasing rows starting with the immediate families and ending with the very back rows.
• Before heading to the reception, check the church and parking lot for anything that may have been left behind.
Most importantly, enjoy yourself! How often do you get to dress up, look sharp, and walk arm in arm with beautiful women all in one day?