Let’s be honest, when it comes to bachelor parties, the first thing that most men think of is strippers. Yep, nothing says “I’m about to get married” like a strange naked woman dancing all over the groom.
Of course, a pole and tassel themed stag night isn’t for every guy. As best man, it’s your job to find out
what kind of bachelor party is suitable for your buddy…and his bride to be. Naturally, you want to give your best friend a proper send-off into married life, but not at the cost of ruining the mood of the wedding if his fiancée finds out what went down during the bachelor party.
Alas, if live entertainment is acceptable, then dammit, that’s what the groom’s going to get. If this is the first time you’ll be planning this type of event, here are some tips to help you perfect the nudie party.
Where?Whether it’s going to a strip club or bringing the entertainment to a home or hotel room, strippers can perform pretty much anywhere. Of course, it’s always nice if a pole is available. (No pole? Worst case scenario: Make the groom double as the pole.)
- If you’re going to a strip club, research what’s legal in your area. You may have to travel a long distance if you’re looking for a “bare all” club, as they’re outlawed in many cities/counties.
- If using a hotel room, whatever you do, don’t tell the hotel employees that strippers are coming! This may seem obvious, but you’d be surprised how many idiots out there have done so and been kicked out.
When and how to bookThe best call-in girls generally are booked up to months in advance. So, as the
best man, you really need to bring your A game when planning the bachelor party. It’s never too early to book the entertainment. We recommend having the details finalized at least three months in advance.
Do your homework and check out several different services. Some agencies will have websites or can provide you with photos, but it’s important to rely on recommendations so you can be sure about what you’re getting.
Cost and paymentNever has the statement “you get what you pay for” been as true as it is when dealing with strippers. Sure, you can get a stripper to perform for $50/hour, but don’t be surprised when a girl named “Gus” shows up and wants to give the groom a foot massage. The top strippers can range up to $300/hour. This should prompt another obvious question: “How much do you like the groom?”
TMR Recommendation: Have every guest chip in for the entertainment to help cut down on your out-of-pocket expenses for the evening. Note that when the girls arrive, their manager or “stripper pimp” will usually ask for payment up front. It’s also normal for the girls to ask if you’d like any extra optional services they offer. Just remember that these costs are additional to their hourly fee.
Keep an eye out for anything that crosses the lineYou should have a chat with the groom before the show starts and before he has anything to drink. Find out what he’s comfortable with and what crosses the line. It’s your job to watch for this and step in if things get out of control. This means staying sober enough to retain your better judgment. This may seem like a buzz-kill, but your buddy will really hate you if things go too far on your watch.
Another important thing to remember is not to let the groom get too drunk before the girls arrive. Strippers won’t perform if they sense a problem on the horizon.
TippingIt goes without saying that strippers expect generous tips during and after their performances. Make sure the bachelor party guest list is aware of this. If they choose to be cheap-skates, it’s up to you to cover the tip. Tell them to bring the big bills if they want a good show and NEVER, under any circumstance, ask a stripper for change!
TMR Recommendation: A bachelor party with strippers can go downhill in a hurry for any number of reasons. Remember to play by the rules and always have the groom’s back. Don’t let him do anything stupid. Also keep in mind that if the guests are rude or do something stupid (like trying to take pictures or video), the party’s over. Cheers and enjoy the party, guys!
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